I’ll be the first to admit that it’s not always easy to be a positive voice in a negative world.
I have my fair share of rough days (sometimes weeks).
I have days when nothing seems to go right.
I have days when the kids are not at their best.
Goodness, I have days when I’m not at my best.
Despite what you may think, I do not, in fact, always have it all together.
There are days I don’t want to talk to anyone. I don’t want to go anywhere.
I just want to sit in front of the computer, add things to my online shopping cart and pretend I bought them.
But not really buy them, because retail therapy is really really expensive.
Especially when you need it as often as I do.
Can I get an amen?
The thing is, when I’m having a rough time, I generally make it a point NOT to talk about it.
My husband knows, of course. Bless his heart.
He really does have incredible patience.
Instead, I choose to experience these particular days as quietly and quickly as possible.
When I’m having ‘one of those days’, I don’t like the way I feel or the things I want to say.
So I stay quiet.
A favorite verse of mine, that I try my best to uphold and live by can be found in Ephesians.
I don’t know which Bible version you have, I personally enjoy reading various translations.
For church, I use the King James Version (KJV),
but for devotions and reading at home I love the Amplified version.
|King James Version||“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth,
but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”
|New International Version||“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths,
but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs,
that it may benefit those who listen.”
|Amplified Version||“Do not let unwholesome [foul, profane, worthless, vulgar]
words ever come out of your mouth,
but only such speech as is good for building up others,
according to the need and the occasion,
so that it will be a blessing to those who hear [you speak].”
I love how that amplified verse really brings out the meaning. It defines “unwholesome talk” as anything
without true worth, but also anything that could be considered profane or vulgar.
It also addresses speaking according the need and occasion.
Don’t speak idle words, but let your words be spoken with intent and purpose.
I also love the King James version, because it draws a considerable point.
I often ask myself – is this edifying?
Will this minister grace to someone?
Are the words I say attending to the needs of others?
There are many who would argue that this sort of attitude
is simply just not feasible or attainable.
And to you I say, nonsense.
I admit, it doesn’t always come easily.
Sometimes I really want to whine and complain…
Sometimes I even want to scream.
Sometimes my husband wants to “work on side jobs.”
The thing is, we all have bad days. It’s completely normal.
But, how we choose to handle ourselves in the midst of a bad day
can have a profound affect on our lives.
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” – Charles Swindoll
I truly believe that when you start speaking positively, positive things will happen.
Don’t dwell on the bad, but focus on all the wonderful things that are happening.
Choose praise. Choose thankfulness.
We all have that friend who is always having a bad day
…and makes sure everyone knows about it.
Obviously, they’re looking for sympathy and feel the need
to vent their frustrations and disappointments to the world.
I have a few friends who appear to live in a perpetual state of doom.
Everything bad happens to them. They’re always sick and they’re rarely happy.
According to them, their life is like a never ending tale of sorrow and despair.
And they want everyone to know about it.
Bad moods can be contagious, just like catching a cold or flu.
If you have a friend who is constantly dragging you down,
you may need to remove that negativity from your life.
Perhaps this means spending as little time with as possible
or …removing them from your Facebook feed.
Facebook actually makes it pretty easy.
There’s a little drop down menu you can click through that says ‘Unfollow so-and-so’.
You’ll remain friends, but you won’t have to see their posts anymore.
Thank you Facebook, you’ve finally done something right.
The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become. I promise.
Be brave enough to let go of those who keep weighing you down.
Be brave enough to change yourself.
Before you speak or update your status on Facebook, ask yourself…
How am I making the world a better place by posting this?
How can I encourage someone today?
How can I be a positive influence in a negative world?
Believe that you have the power to inspire and you will.